Petebass wrote: ↑
22 Nov 2017, 11:50
Yeah well, I'm certainly struggling to think of a worse year ..... I fully expect to be taken to the cleaners, anything better than that will be seen as a bonus (my lawyer seems to know what he's doing). I'm mentally preparing myself to have to start all over again at 45.
You wont need to struggle long, it's nearly here 2018. Then 2019 etc etc. Just when you think it can't get any worse.
At the end, my lawyer said the same thing. After first having taken what was left in the kitty. The agreed upon price more than blew out. I was legally able to ask for the figures, which I did, but not in writing. I was just quickly reassured and on we went. They know what their doing all right. I should never have employed one until the last minute. Keep contact with them to a minimum, stay off the phone. tearalong was right when he said to keep copies, and records. You need them for everything.
You may be mentally prepared but you may also be eligible for 6 free visits with a phsychiatrist, so start looking for a good one now. Check with your doctor. I started from scratch at 46. I had two kids, so I was behind the 8 ball from the beginning. No getting a home loan with no deposit, no savings, and on a low income. I could only just manage rent, bills and food. Eventually something had to give and, after loosing my job, ended up homeless for six months. That ended up being better than I thought, No bills to drain on my $250 a week dole bonanza.
It is tough and you will make it through, if you don't kill yourself, and you'll wonder if killing someone else would be better. Jail will give you freedoms that, as a good citizen, you will be denied. Food, clothing, shelter, and as your lawyer will tell you, you'll have no bills, you'll have people around you so you can bond socially, you'll have excercise, a job, a small income, regularity, routine, time for reflection, and you wont have to deal with the CSA, that's gotta be "a bonus".